“This is where we took our first steps. This is where we rebuilt our lives from scratch for a second time. This is where we learned that we were not to blame for what had happened to us.”

For D.K., a survivor of sexual violence during the Kosovo war, these words capture the role Medica Kosova played in helping her reclaim her life after years of trauma, stigma and isolation.

Since 2003, Medica Kosova, a member of the Kosovo Women’s Network (KWN), has supported survivors of wartime sexual violence through psychosocial services, legal assistance, economic empowerment programmes and advocacy. One of the women who has benefited from this support is D.K., who, during a visit by KWN, generously shared her experience of healing, resilience and rebuilding a future beyond the trauma of war.

When D.K. first became involved with Medica Kosova in 2002, she was one of many women carrying the silent wounds of war. Like many survivors, she struggled with the long-lasting effects of trauma and the stigma and judgement that prevented women from speaking openly about their experiences.

“If we went out on the street or attended a wedding, people pointed fingers. Other women kept their distance from us.”

Through psychosocial support groups and individual sessions, D.K. gradually came to understand that she was not responsible for what had happened to her.

“This is where we took our first steps. This is where we rebuilt our lives from scratch for a second time. This is where we learned that we were not to blame for what had happened to us.”

Medica Kosova provided D.K. with confidence, practical coping mechanisms and the strength to move forward. The techniques she learned years ago remain part of her daily life and continue to help her manage difficult moments.

“When we felt overwhelmed, they taught us to stand by a window and breathe deeply. I still do that every day. When my mind becomes crowded, I sit quietly until I feel calm again.”

Through economic empowerment programmes, D.K. and many other women were able to generate income for their families and regain a sense of independence. With Medica Kosova’s support, she became involved in farming and livestock breeding, creating opportunities for her children to continue their education and helping her family build a more stable future.

“With that income, we educated our children, renovated our home and continued our lives. Today, our children are educated, married and have families of their own.”

D.K.’s experience demonstrates how long-term support that combines psychosocial assistance with economic empowerment can help survivors regain control over their lives and create opportunities for future generations.

Today, when D.K. reflects on her journey, she is struck by the transformation she and many other survivors have achieved.

“It was as if we were born again. Look where we were and where we are today. Sometimes I can hardly believe I am the same person.”

D.K. believes organisations such as Medica Kosova have played a decisive role in helping survivors heal and move forward.

“Without this support, we would have been left far behind. Without these organisations, we would never have dared to speak.”

Her message to women who may still hesitate to seek help is simple:

“Don’t listen to anyone else. Claim your rights. Keeping everything inside only destroys you.”

Ahead of the International Day for the Elimination of Sexual Violence in Conflict, D.K.’s story serves as a powerful reminder that recovery is possible when survivors have access to long-term support, understanding and economic opportunities.

The initials of the survivor featured in this story have been changed to protect her identity.

If you or someone you know is a survivor of sexual violence and needs support, please contact the Kosovo Women’s Network for information, referral and assistance.